16 February 2009

If anyone has ?? please ask!

My oldest dearest sister friend from high school asked me if I was going to adopt and I realized I hadn't really talked about that. Yes, I do want to adopt. I'm doing what's called the foster to adopt program. The agency said I should do all the foster parent prerequisites and while I'm fostering I will be doing the adoption stuff out of the way. I'm not really sure what all the training and such will be just yet. Totally learning as I go with this.

This is how the adoption process has been explained to me. The courts and cps do everything they can to keep families together. Once a child has been placed in foster care the courts decide what happens next. They try to find a relative (sometimes this happens before the child gets placed in foster care) to care for the child. If a relative can't they try to find a friend of the family - this process is called kinship care. So if they cant find anyone to care for the child it goes to/stays in foster care.
In the meantime the courts are telling the parents what to do to get their kids back, get a job, stay clean, get out of jail, anger management, etc. Depending on individual cases it's about a 6 month or longer court process. If the natural parents don't get their act together the courts will release the child for adoption. When that happens cps repeats the process of trying to find a friend or a relative to take the child. If that fails or the people are unsuitable to raise children, the foster parent the child lives with would be asked if they want to adopt the child. The state says in order for me to adopt the child it has to have been in my care for at least 6 months.

I've also been asked about having to give a child back to the natural parents. I just have had to realize I don't get a say in it and just like the rest of life you have to play by the rules. The ultimate goal is what's in the best interest of the child. I feel like I'm being as realistic as possible and yes, it's going to be super hard to give a child back. I have faith that these children need warm loving homes and I am here for how ever long that is. I have faith the right child will come that is meant to be here.
I can't let myself feel anxious about something that is a long way away and may never happen.
I just asked the Universe to handle it for me. And it said OK.

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